Sunday, June 01, 2008

Sometimes a lot of Humiliation means a little Pain

I mention it all the time that I'm a total humiliation slut but when it comes to pain, you can leave me out. It's not that I don't accept that some pain is part of the process, I get that and I do expect a bit of discomfort. Let's face it, its kind of hard to have your nipples clamped or weights attached to your pussy lips without feeling a little sting and certainly when a little Asian fucktoy like myself has been a naughty bitch, I definately need to be punished and sometimes that means a spanking and sometimes it means a whipping.

I know girls who are total pain sluts though, big time. They can totally get off on being flogged for hours and its like after the initial pain period has built up to a certain point, they sort of drift into a different kind of mentality. Its very much like a natural high where your brain starts kicking in all kinds of natural chemicals to counter whats going on to your body and for some people that can be very exciting. I'm not a doctor (unless I play dressup and yes I do have a couple of very sexy nurse outfits, one is a nice tight shiny PVC too!) so I have no idea what is happening to me chemically when I'm severely humiliated or if its the same process or feeling as being flogged or exposed to larger amounts of pain (much in the same way that needle play for example might trigger chemical releases) but it would be very interesting to find out.

I guess the other issue I have with whipping is that for a lot of dominants, especially ones who sorry to say this lack creativity, its like their "go to" move. First we expose the girl, that's fun but now we spank spank spank, whip whip whip, get a flogger with thinner tails, whip whip whip some more, now rub rub rub, now whip whip whip. Maybe its just me but that kind of gets boring after a while. Don't get me wrong, I think if you do anything too much or too often its going to get boring which is why mixing things up and trying new things is so important.

So yes I love humiliation and accept a little pain must fall into my naughty little life as a bondage whore. I guess the best way I can put this is to say that I don't like it when the pain is the focus of the activity but rather simply a side effect. You put clamps on my nipples and attach strings or weights to the clamps to stretch them out or really pull hard on them, of course theres some pain involved, I have these really big thick nipples too that get super sensitive so definately, I'm feeling that. But the issue is that the pain is not the focus of the activity, at least not for me. It's more about control (because this very sensitive part of my body is being bound and controlled) and humiliation (and if you don't believe me, try standing naked in a room of strangers with your nipples stretched out to ridiculous lengths and tell me you don't fell a pinch of humliation, its delicious!).

I mentioned my pussy lips too and as you know I am pierced with 2 rings in my pussy so often I'll get leashed there. Believe me when someone tugs on a leash that is attached to my pussy, I feel it and I start moving pretty quick. Again though the point isn't to cause pain to the lips of my little fuck hole, though that certainly is the case, but rather its to humiliate me by controlling my whole body by the one part of it that really defines me as a sex toy for use. Its a similar thing if you're talking about my pussy lips being stretched out by weights or by string tied to the rings that then pull them down or out or even apart to expose my juicy whore hole.

Those are probably the obvious things someone can do to my tight brown body that will cause me some pain. Clamps stretching my sensitive parts and a nice whipping or spanking but there are other things. For example, if you put a particularly large plug in my ass ,that is going to be very uncomfortable but also very humiliating. Especially if you make me go out in public like that. If you've never put a large plug or dildo in a girl's ass and then gone out to dinner with her, try it and take note of how she walks and sits. I think you'll really enjoy the show, I'm sure that I've given a great show of trying to deal with this thing inside me while trying to act as normal as possible at the same time.

This brings me to the whole point of all this which is the thing I love and hate all at the same time which is candle wax.. First of all, most people don't realize that you can actually buy wax that burns at different temperatures, so the real pain sluts might be out there getting a high heat candle so they can really feel the pain, but for me, I'm happy with a nice mild candle. For me the focus is on covering my body and my not so private parts with wax. It really does humiliate me because again I'm exposed, in a way I'm being modified and yes even with a mild temperature candle the wax still stings. I especially love it when my pussy, nipples and tits, belly and face get covered in wax. The one part of my body I love having covered in wax is my tongue. It freaks me out a little because I can sometimes feel the wax sliding down my tongue but it always hardens before it goes too far which is comforting. The thing that happens is that at first my tongue has to be pulled out but once even a little wax is covering it, it stays out on its own. I can't really pull it back into my mouth with this huge chunk of wax all over it, I mean I guess I could theoretically but it just seems like it would feel really wierd. Either way though, having those parts covered in wax can definately be a humiliating experience.

So even though I may experience a little pain in my slutty fetish whore life, its all for humiliation purposes. If you don't think that being naked in a room full of strangers with your tongue hanging out of your mouth covered in wax, drool dripping everywhere, your nipples pulled way way out, your pussy lips pulled apart, your pussy juice dripping down your thighs and a huge plug shoved up your ass is humiliating, then I strongly recommend you try it! You might find that it can be very humiliating but more important, you might just find that you like it!

2 Comments:

At 8:55 AM, Anonymous latex conservative said...

Aloha!

BDSM doesn't always have to have pain, I agree. Sometimes there are some who really 'feel' the pain of humiliation and enjoy it.

The sticky part of the equation is always the sharing aspect of the relationship: what is the bottom getting out of it, and what is the top getting out of it. Communication prior to a scene helps a lot so there are no misunderstandings and you end up with that domme that treats you more like a real dead horse than just a mere rubber pony; beating not insomuch to really damage you, but just making it all about them. Pleasure is meant to be shared, not held exclusively to one.

I recent adventures in humiliating a cock slut involves a little pain. Basically what I do is have her suck me -- she enjoys it -- but I correct her with words and actions. I often remind her how much of a dirty slut she is, and then I sometimes tell her she's doing it wrong, and then I build up the punishment: tug of leash, a light slap to the face, and then perhaps I use a flogger and make her guess where I'm going to strike. I'll spank her fast and quick to make her go faster; one hard smack to make her go slower.

 
At 3:45 PM, Anonymous Sir Grizz said...

Maliia, I agree with your premise 100%. In my mind I would exchange the word humiliation for mind. I use pain, or any action, for the purpose of stimulating the mind. Oft times the "IDEA" of pain is all that is needed to excite. What if electrodes were placed on your pussy clamps and you were given a shock as you walked into a fancy restaurant and told it would happen often through dinner. How often would you anticipate the shock during your meal. By the end you would be a wet mess fearing when the exact moment of humiliation would occur. Most people don't need a lot of pain, just a lot of stimulation!!

 

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