How to get Any Girl to do Anything You Want...Including Maliia

I feel like I've been talking about cum a lot lately. I like the stuff but you know there's just so many aspects of sexual fun and cum or even the act of orgasming is just one of them. To be honest, there's a lot of fun to be had in the middle of the process too and as someone said to me in an email today, if guys would enjoy the journey and not worry so much about the destination, they'd have even more fun with it. Think about that. If you're a guy and you're willing to do anything before you cum, imagine how many great things you can do and would be willing to explore. For example, I've definitely noticed that I get a lot more interest in my vanilla sex postings as opposed to the ones with more of a focus on bondage or fetish activities. Some people have even commented to me that they like reading what I have to write sure, but they just aren't that into the bondage part. That's cool and all but given that this is a big part of what I'm about, you have to figure that if you're going to read about me and visit my webcage at maliia.com, then you're going to have to endure a good amount of bondage and fetish talk. I would hope that you would like those areas as much as I do and I know some of the people who are really into bdsm do like it but this is where I'm going with it and this is just as an example. For the vanilla sex people who say they aren't really into it, maybe they aren't which is cool or maybe they just haven't given it a try for any one of a number of reasons. As I said before, guys are a lot more willing to try new things when they're in that period when they're trying to get off, so if you want to try something new that could make your experience a lot more intense, try adding in a little more spice to the process. You might be surprised by what you get out of it.

Now what about for the girls? See that's the other thing. I've gotten a lot of comments from guys asking how they can get their girlfriend or wife to lick or play with their cum or do whatever kinky thing they're into or in some cases, they want to figure out how they can get a certain girl in bed with them. As I said in a previous post, there are a lot of things that don't work but now I thought I would share something that definitely works on most girls, especially me. Compliments!

I'm serious. I love to be compliment like you won't believe. Even the most boring, obnoxious pain in the ass can score a few extra points with me simply by making a tasteful but complimentary comment about me. Nice eyes, beautiful hair, great legs. If its someone I know a little better and they want to get me turned on, it's perfectly fine if they compliment other parts of my body too. Here's the thing to do though. First, all girls have areas they're insecure about. It's just a fact. It's no different from a guy with a teenie weenie, he doesn't want a girl to make fun of it, that will make him feel like shit right? But he will respond more favorably to the girl who makes him feel like its not an issue or that there are other more important qualities. Same with girls. Take me for example, I'm pretty secure about myself and my sexuality, I think that's pretty obvious, but still I have areas I'm insecure about. One area is that I have tiny tits. It's true, no way for me to get around that unless I go get a boob job which is an idea but not part of this topic. So if a guy were to say how much he likes my tits or how much my nipples turn him on or if he gently squeezed my little tits and paid them a lot of attention, well that especially turns me on because not only do I get the sexual act, but I also feel really good that this area that I was insecure about is something he's really into so I don't have to feel the need to hide it or be embarrassed about it, see?

On the other hand, doing the opposite and saying something to emphasize her insecurities is bad, bad bad. That's like saying to the teenie weenie guy, hey, if you give me a microscope and a pair of tweezers I'll jerk you off. Come on. If your girl has large or dangly pussy lips, don't say hey, that's a nice deli meat tray. The thing is, even if you do like that about her, if you don't communicate that fact and you only say the comment in the way that emphasizes the insecurity, then she's not going to know that you like that about her, she'll feel bad, she won't get into it and without being into it she's less likely to do fun things like let you chain her up or cum on her face.

I've had some guys give me compliments that were really insults. You want to be careful not to do this even if its by accident. Like I've had some people say hey, your boobs are really cute given how tiny they are. Thanks. Why would you want to emphasize something I'm insecure about in a negative way. Just say they're cute boobs and be done with it. Why qualify it as for their size, they're really cute. Besides, cute isn't a good word to use with boobs anyway. There's better words like perky, beautiful, stunning, whatever. I don't have a dictionary with me. That's the thing though, most girls, and I'm no exception, love to be complimented and told how beautiful or hot or kinky they are or whatever. It doesn't matter if its not true, if you want that girl to be your little slut (and by the way, chances are she wants to be a slut for you, you just have to help her feel comfortable letting her inner slut out to play) then you have to make her feel good about herself, comfortable with whatever you're doing and if you have to lie a little to make her feel good then do it! Trust me, it's worth it!

It's also a great way to ease a girl into more bdsm activities. I've had guys say to me that my butt looks so firm and tight that they want to give it a spank and you know what? I often will let them! Why not, they made me feel good about myself and see, now I want to show off my tight little ass to them and anyone else because I have a good feeling about it.

I know a lot of this seems obvious and yet, you wouldn't believe how many guys get this wrong. Again, I'm a great example of this. When I get emails complimenting my webcage at maliia.com or especially complimenting my little body or some of the bondage I've done or talking about how much they'd like to see my cute little body chained up or dressed in this fetish outfit or rubber or on a leash or as a ponygirl or puppy or whatever, it's very hot and I'm a lot more likely to want to start up a friendship with that person and who knows where that could lead! Seriously, compliments are not only the key to my heart, but also the key to my pussy and if you're interested, my ass as well. People who put in the effort to know me, know what I'm into and can get a feel for what really pushes my buttons are a lot more likely to go far with me. It's because they can engage in verbal humiliation and talk about things that get me hot. I'll give you an example. Last week a guy emailed me and his email really excited me. It was like he knew exactly what to say. Keep in mind, he wasn't rude or disrespectful to me. This wasn't a "fuck me now bitch" email. Instead he told me a little about himself which is nice. Then he talked about what he liked about me and specifically what he liked in a way that was perfect for me. He talked about how good I would look with pierced nipples and how that would really show off my tits nicely. How he'd like to lock my nipple rings together and tattoo ownership information on my pussy and turn me into a total Asian bimbo slut. It's not just what he said mind you that was so interesting, it was the way he said it too which unfortunately I didn't convey very well here. He was firm, respectful and graphic all at the same time. It was so interesting to me that I really wanted to stay in touch with him and hear more of what he had to say.

See, compliments combined with taking the time to know what turns the girl on can really get you far, maybe even further than you ever could have imagined. Of course that's just my perspective. I'm not saying all girls will do anything you say just because you say something nice once in a while, but I am saying that many girls including me will respond far more positively and be a lot more open minded with you. Hey, I've said before that the brain is the best sexual organ and words can be a big part of that. Turn on a girl's brain and you should be able to turn on her body too, and that goes for me too. If you want to get my body hot and wet, just get my brain excited first.