Bondage Chatrooms can be Fun if you Chat with Cool People!

You know lately I think I've either had way too much time on my hands or maybe I'm just hornier than usual because from time to time I'll go venture into an online bondage chatroom. In case you're wondering what chatroom I'm talking about, if you click the chatrooms link at the top of my webcage (at maliia.com), then you'll see what I'm talking about. You know I've never really been a big fan of cybersex in the traditional way because I've never seen much point to it. You know, I just picture a guy sitting there typing how hot the girl he's conversing with is making him and playing with himself as they mentally create a scene and then of course the person on the other end who may or may not be what they say they are may or may not be getting off as well.

For me when I go to chat I prefer to talk about a lot of the same things I like to talk about at my webcage. I like to have conversations with people about what their experiences have been, what they're hoping to try or fantasizing about that they would be hesitant to try. Of course I don't mind sharing my thoughts and experiences and fantasies too although you know, I have such a dirty little mind that a chat like that with me could take all day! Still, it's nice to do that and sometimes if the conversation gets really interesting and we seem to share a lot of interests in common, then we can talk about the kinds of things that might be fun to do to each other. Not in a "I'm tying a rope around your cock and now I'm pinching your nipple" kind of way because since I'm not there, obviously I'm not doing that, but rather in a if we ever got together, these are some of the ways I would probably approach a scene with you or this is how I would want to play with you kind of way. Those are the frankly the kinds of chats I like the best and they can be very interesting and exciting and you can get a good sense of how the person likes to play for real by finding how how they would approach a scene with you or vice versa. For me it doesn't matter if the person I'm talking to is a 20 year old playboy model wanna-be or a 50 year old guy in his parent's basement pretending to be the playboy model wanna be. I'm more interested in the person's mind and what they have to say and how creative and interesting they can be and whether their interests align with my own in terms of fetish and sexual play. Sure, its nice to believe that the person you're talking to is the one you have a mental image of, but since you don't always know that, its better not to even think in those terms and just go with the flow you know?

In the process though I've found a few things that really annoyed me. One of them is a similar complaint to some of the emails I get and that's the fact that most people do online what they would never do for real. I would get messages from people, again mostly guys and sorry guys but you've got some from your team who just aren't representing you well, who come right out and say "fuck me bitch" or "suck my cock". Others are a little more subtle and they'll start out with "tell me about yourself" or the less polite" a/s/l". See, maybe I'm just crazy or out of touch with the reality of online chatrooms, but to me, if you're going to contact someone, the polite thing to do is to introduce yourself before you start asking questions and making demands. You know, a little "hi, my name is Maliia, I'm Asian, petite body and black hair", then ask about the other person. Seriously, you wouldn't go up to someone on the street and just say "tell me about yourself" would you? If you went on a blind date even you'd at least say "hi I'm Maliia" before you start asking questions. We'll, you wouldn't say "hi, I'm Maliia", but I would. You get the point though right? The thing is that people lose all concept of the behavior online and while that might be generally accepted and just part of the way it goes, I get that, I still don't think its right. I think in an environment in which you have to go on what the person says without any other forms of sensory input, it's even more inportant that those words convey a lot about who you are. Someone who makes demands or asks questions without any introduction tells me the person is rude and I won't chat with them because I see them as a waste of time. Does that make sense.

Of course a lot of people do it right and I have some great conversations in chat, but still, that doesn't mean I haven't hit a lot of people who just didn't quite line up with my interests. Certainly I get a lot of guys who just want sex. They kind of pretend to be into BDSM because they see it as a way to get into a girl's panties, or mine for that matter, but really, they just want to get laid and if its with a hot little oriental muffin like me, well that's even better. Of course if I wanted to get laid I can do that, I don't need a chatroom for that. What I like the chatroom for is more cerebral you know? Like I said above about sharing things and finding creative, interesting people. Sometimes though it can get a little too creative if you know what I mean. For example, I was chatting with a guy who seemed pretty cool and I shared a little of my fetishes and then he shared his. Unfortunately, his didn't line up with mine. His fetish you ask? He wanted to dance with me on a dance floor that had 4-5 wimps lined up head to foot on the floor. I'm not sure where that fetish comes from or whether he's had a chance to try it in real life, but it seemed a bit odd for my tastes.

The there's people who's interpretation of extreme differs from mine as well. For example, I was chatting with a supposed Mistress and she asked me about the most humiliating things I've done and I told her a couple, and then I asked her what are the most humliiating things she's made someone do and her answer you ask? She made someone accept a demotion at work for 3 months without fighting it. Now certainly taking a demotion at work may very well bring up all kinds of emotions and humiliation may be one of them, but its definately not sexual humiliation which when you're talking to someone in the lifestyle is generally what you're thinking of and besides, she didn't cause the guy to get demoted, I'm guessing he was just spending too much time surfing websites like mine and not enough time actually working. No, her imposition of humiliation was simply to order him not to object to the demotion, and that's assuming he could have done anything about it anyway. Clearly that Mistress and this slavegirl were NOT meant for each other.

I still try to pop into a chatroom every once in a while when I get a chance but I'm very strict about my chatroom ettiquette. People who do it right and seem interesting or creative and can hold my attention I enjoy and the others, well sorry to say but first impressions count for a lot and the person may be great and interesting or whatever but if he can't come across like that in the beginning, I just don't have the patience for it.

So if you're ever in the chatrooms and you see Maliia, it's either me or it's someone pretending to be me and hopefully if it's not me, they'll be just as fun, creative and cool as I am. If not, I'll have to go hunt them down and kick their ass! Anyway, I'm considering going to a bondage party tonight but I'm not sure yet, I have to see if the people I want to go with are going to end up going or not. I hope so though, I'm thinking schoolgirl slave for tonight. You know, a little different from my usual puppygirl or latex/pvc slavegirl routine but still with a little bdsm edge to it. So have a great weekend, share your thoughts about this or any of my other postings or if you have any experiences or fantasies you want to share, do it in my forum section, I try to read that a lot whereas email I get backed up on. Remember to be naughty and if you see a cute little Asian slavegirl on a leash and dressed like a schoolgirl tonight, be polite and say hello and introduce yourself. It might be me!