When a Punishment Becomes a Reward

If you read my last entry, then you know I revealed a little about a girl I slept with the other night and I said it was a different story for a different time. I planned originally for this to be the time and I was going to talk all about what we did to each other and all the fun we had in such explicit, graphic detail that you would have thought you were there joining us and taking part in the fun. Today though I had a different thought which was that I feel like you guys have been bad. I've complained about this before I guess and I always get a handful of excuses but the bottom line is that I get off on what you guys tell me. I'm serious! I get very excited when I see that someone has made a post to my forum section or someone has left a comment to one of my posts. I love reading what you have to say and I'm really interested in it. Yet, more often than not, only a few people really share their thoughts and sometimes, as was the case with the last couple of entries, no one does. See, that doesn't make me feel good because then I don't get to enjoy whatever you have to say.

So this brought up the question of should I keep sharing my thoughts if you aren't going to share yours. This isn't a one way street you know. It's not like television or a porn video where you sit there, watch and enjoy and that's the end of it. This is interactive and that's what makes it so much fun. Not only do you get to look at me and enjoy my stories and the videos and photos and everything else here but you actually get to hang out and get our lives to mingle a little bit. That's so totally cool and its one of the things I really love about this whole experience. It's the chance to interact with people I never would have gotten to know otherwise. Except its not really working out that way.

The question then is should I just keep plugging away at this, and I know a number of you will jump in and say yes and whatever and you are probably right of course. On the other hand, since we are into the bdsm lifestyle and I'm enjoying taking a dominant position sometimes, the question I have is whether punishment is in order. Of course this raises another problem. How do you punish someone who will enjoy the punishment. That's something I've spoken a lot with people on. It's especially a problem if you have a submissive who acts up just because he or she wants to be punished. In that case, punishing them is really like giving them a reward and in that case aren't you rewarding them for behavior that you don't want? If that's so, doesn't the punishment become counter-productive because you're reinforcing that type of behavior which will just make it all the more common and likely to happen? After all, if we want to train someone to behave in a certain way (and this has nothing to do with dominant or submissive by the way, its more about conditioned actions) then don't we have to make sure that our punishments will result in an aversion to the behavior that we're trying to correct?

See, I thought so too. So in this case I have a few choices. I can ignore the problem and keep doing my thing and hope it goes away, except this hasn't really been a good strategy so far and I don't think its working. Second, I can find some other solution which I think I would need input on and since that's the exact problem I'm trying to resolve, it seems a little catch 22 like. The third option though is to punish you. Some people might argue that punishing people who are just reading my stuff and enjoying my webcage could be counter productive. After all, they didn't come here to put up with that crap. Well, I agree with that, but still, I want to try it and see how it goes. As a result, I'm not going to tell my story in graphic explicit mind blowing detail about the fun I had with the gorgeous girl a couple of nights ago. I always have great stories to share though that will make you crazy, so I hope I get to share them. So, we'll see.