Friday, April 14, 2006

All Asian Girls Look the Same. I Get That!

I know that to some people, everyone with slanty eyes looks the same. I get that. Although I'm a little better at telling the difference between northern Asian (Chinese, Japanese, Korean) from Southeast Asian (Thai, Filipino, Cambodian, Vietnamese, etc), I have a lot of trouble just looking at someone and knowing which country within one of those groups someone falls into. So that brings us to me. I'm actually a Hawaiian/Japanese/White mix (I'm a total mutt but a cute one. This could explain why I love puppygirl play so much) but I'm told that I look like I'm Thai or Filipina. I get that. Brown skin, slanty eyes, dark hair. Makes sense. It doesn't bother me when someone who has no other information to go on other than my physical appearance gets it wrong.

The problem though is when someone has lots of other information and still gets it wrong. For example, I've been getting a lot of emails from people who have been to my website and still think I'm Thai or Filipina. I got an email a couple of days ago from a guy who was lamenting the fact that I'm so far away, in Manila and its too bad I couldn't be here in the U.S. where its closer to him I guess. I don't know if this guy was just totally confused or what but it made me wonder if this guy was even looking at the right website? Where did Manila come from? That was just wierd.

Still there are some interesting aspects about being Asian. I've already told you one which is often when I go to an Asian restaurant (Chinese, Thai, Japanese) I get job offers. Let's see, I can be a waitress, okey or I can be a bondage princess. I've said for a while that if someone opens a "slave restaurant" where the waitresses are slaves in chains, maybe I'll be a waitress there, but until that place opens up I think I'll stick to being a bondage princess. By the way, I'm using the word princess here. I like that. Some people seem to think that I'm a pornstar or minor celebrity, but I don't think I'm any kind of a star or anything else and I would have to have a big ego to believe that sort of thing and since I don't have a big ego, I'm sticking with bondage princess. This is actually a different subject though that we can get into another time. Anyway...

Some other things I've found interesting about being Asian. First, I've found that Asian guys generally figure they have a claim to me. There are times when if I'm out with a friend who isn't Asian, the Asian guys will either look at the guy funny or try and start trouble or in the least make a move if they guy goes to the bathroom. The last one is pretty normal though and not restricted to Asian guys. It really doesn't matter who I'm with, it seems as if I'm left alone for 2 minutes, I have a guy trying to get in my panties. I guess its good they don't know that I don't usually wear panties huh? (and another reason why despite requests, I do not sell my used panties to people). There are plenty of non Asian guys who either have "yellow fever" meaning they go exclusively for Asian girls or they know a cute girl like me when they see one. That's okey, its a nice ego boost for me to know that I'm a sexy enough little hottie that I can generate that kind of interest. I don't worry so much about the motivation because it usually won't go anywhere anyway, so its okey.

One thing I did adopt was the term "little brown fucking machine". I've used that a few times even here to describe myself because I like it a lot and I think it describes me very well. I know that its a term used by some guys, especially the sex tourist types who go off to Thailand or the Philippines pretty much just to get laid and the term describes the girls there who are prostitutes, but I think its a hot term, what can I say and even though I'm not a prostitute, I am a total whore and I like that about myself too. I don't buy into this double standard crap that its wrong for a woman to enjoy sex and be a whore but its okey and even good for a guy to do that? It's either good for everyone or its not. I've decided its good for me and certainly a lot of fun so that's why I like using those kinds of terms to describe myself. Plus it goes back to the self verbal humilation that I talked about a few weeks ago.

Also I've really enjoyed the few comments and thoughts I've gotten about some of the things I've been writing here. I know that most people will read and have nothing to say about it and that's cool, but if you do have a thought, don't be afraid to share it okey? So anyway, if you're Jewish, have a great passover. If you're Christian, have a great Easter and if you're not anything, have a great weekend. Isn't it neat how I wrapped that up like that.

6 Comments:

At 4:28 PM, Dan Holzman said...

I've seen alot of what you describe here. On a livejournal community I read called debunkingwhite, last year there was quite a toss-up when a number of Asian men asserted that white men had to avoid dating Asian women if they were anti-racist, only to have the Asian women on the group call them out for their sexism in trying to define them as their property.

I don't often read women write about not being bothered when male interest in them comes from some race-based fetish -- or even any other fetish -- and not from any sort of interest in them as a person. Perhaps that's got something to do with why it's so unlikely to go anywhere?

 
At 8:20 PM, Stannous Flouride said...

Thai women and Filipinas do tend to be a bit more petite and, like women from the tropics everywhere, often have darker skin than their more Northern neighbors but I don't see any particular aspect about your beauty that resembles them.

I don't know, sure you're a hot little slant-eyed, brown, fucking and sucking bondage princess but you sure look American to Me...

Maybe the confused Manila guy is dyslexic and misread your name?

 
At 8:45 PM, Slave Maliia said...

Hey, I'm glad that those of you with thoughts about this have shared what you think. That's totally cool. So here's my thought...

1. I'm not bothered by guys with "yellow fever" really because I recognize that its out there and its a fact of life. That having been said, I wouldn't have any interest in someone who was primarily only interested in me because of my slanty eyes and not because of me as the main thing. So if it affects me directly I guess it would bother me but if it doesn't then I'm not too worried about it.

2. That was a great line: "hot little slant-eyed, brown, fucking and sucking bondage princess" Very cool. That's a good point about the Manila guy. if we replace the N with an L and the other L with an I, then we have Maliia instead. I think I'll stick with Maliia. I'd rather have a beautiful and original Hawaiian name than be named after a polluted Philippines city.

 
At 9:18 PM, Stannous Flouride said...

Personally, I have always been attracted to petite, small-breasted women with dark hair and brown eyes (probably because I grew up in a house with big, buxom, blonde and blue-eyed women) but that is not limited to Asian/Pacific Islanders.
I have dated Anglos, Latinas, and African-Americans and have found that those physical traits are what I tend to be attracted to.
Of course since there are close to 2,000,000,000 Asian females on the planet, including a large number who live here in San Francisco, it is hard to not be in some sort of a 'fever' just walking out the front door.

And thanks, I worked hard on the "hot little slant-eyed, brown, fucking and sucking bondage princess" line, finally pulling up your cute bathtub pic for inspiration.
Then it was easy- I just pictured you with Me wearing just a leash, nipple clamps, a demur smile, and a fresh red hand-print on your cheek
at the Folsom St Leather/Fetish Fair...
nice pony pics here:
www.folsomstreetfair.com/photos/folsom-2005/images/05FOL_D_0407.jpg
www.folsomstreetfair.com/photos/folsom-2004/images/04FSF_01_24.jpg

Stannous

 
At 11:00 PM, Stannous Flouride said...

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At 5:57 PM, Anonymous said...

You know, in Thailand, it's Sohn Krahn! (Thai New Year) That's the festival where everyone throws water at each other.

 

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