Self Verbal Humiliation as Masturbation?
I was having a chat with an Asian Mistress who seems very intelligent and she said something that really was interesting to me. You know that I like to call myself a slut, whore fuck toy or whatever sometimes because I love the verbal humiliation of it. She said that while I may get a great deal of pleasure from hearing someone else, particularly a dominant, call me those things, me doing it to myself cheapens the experience and is along the lines of masturbation. That being that it feels good for a moment, but if it's done too much it can take away from the real experience and it doesn't compare to the real thing anyway. Sort of like how as much fun as playing with myself might be, it doesn't compare with having sex with one or more real people.
What I'm talking about isn't the same as if a dominant calls me something and then wants for me to say out loud what I am or to say it in front of others or whatever, this is where in emails or on the phone or whatever, I casually with no prompting refer to myself in a verbally humiliating way. Not only does it feel good for a moment, but I think I do it also to let the dominant person I'm talking to know that I like verbal humiliation and that its okey for them to do it and to let them know how I like it. Now that I've thought about it though, this might be a little wierd because prior to saying those things I usually would have already told a dominant that I like verbal humiliation, especially racial humiliation and so they would already know. They probably don't need the reminders.
So I want your opinion, and if I don't see any response comments to this I'll feel really dissapointed because I'm looking for your input. Do you think that kind of self verbal humiliation is a type of masturbation that cheapens the experience and is unnecessary anyway for communicating my desires to the dominant, or do you think its just harmless fun, or do you have another opinion all together. Share your thoughts!
posted by Slave Maliia @ 9:33 AM
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Good morning, slut maliia =)
girl does not think that self-verbal humiliation is necessarily just one thing. The entire bdsm/submission experience is too complicated to pigeon-hole.
Yes, it is a form of masturbation, because it causes girl to juice when she refers to herself as a slut either in email, in a posting, or in person. If masturbation is a cheap form of sexual activity, then yes, the action of self-humiliation is equally cheap.
But is it? Sometimes in fantasy and in reading a bdsm story, the action is so torrid that it demands action, and if no partner is present, then what is wrong with masturbation. girl does not think anything is wrong. It is merely another form of release and pleasure, not necessarily a cheap form of sex.
It is harmless and fun, but not long lasting, that is true. But as we have talked before, girl has never found a real life relationship to match the thrills of her fantasies and fiction. girl has not given up, but perhaps her standards are set too high.
Bottom line: girl has no experience submitting to a dominant mistress, but in her relationships with two different masters, she finds that self-humiliation delights both girl and her master, and whether done in public, privately, or online, the effect is the same.
I think most girls are generally susceptible to any kind of humiliation (in a sexual context).
As to the question if this should be considered a form of masturbation, i think only a girl/woman can answer such a question and as a man i am simply not qualified enough.
Maybe girls have a completely different relation to the whole masturbation issue.
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